I'm going to a casual-ish wedding in the summer and am in need of an appropriate dress that I could also transition into my everyday summer wardrobe. I'm not a very fancy person, so any suggestions on a dress that bridges the gap between wedding guest and daily life would help!
Pretty much any cocktail dress (that is not too revealing) can transition from bouquet toss to boardroom (and backyard BBQ and bingo night and b-b-b…), but this Kelly green number by Ralph Lauren would look especially awesome with both a metallic gold sandal and gold jewelry for wedding night and a flat espadrille and denim jacket at Sunday brunch. Ditto this pointelle lace navy frock and this tangerine shirtdress, which you could dress up with a sky-high nude sandal and smoky bronze eye.
Have to wear a "little pink dress" (not kidding) for a Bachelorette Party in downtown STL. Any recs? All I'm finding - especially in larger sizes - are Easter sunday appropriate, and I want something a little more special.
OMG, please don’t tell me y’all are going out on the Landing. But! If you in fact are tearing up the riverfront, I suppose there’s no better color to wear en masse than pink. In fact, forget everything I just said. This will be fun.
ASOS has cute, party-appropriate frocks in Pepto shades for under a hundred, and the best way to avoid church style is to glam up your accessories. This one is cute (and could totally segue into workwear with tights and a blazer), as is this one (less professional, however) and this one (if covered-up is your steeze). Pair with super-sleek hair, a smoky eye, nude lip, and bare legs, and you’ll be good to go. Penis straw not included.
Those leading fashion are often praised as innovators, rule breakers, and, therefore, rebels. However, even those fashions that seem, at first glance, rebellious, are eventually duplicated for common consumption, and become absorbed into the machine that is the fashion industry. Vivienne Westwood, who arguably had cool credentials as one of the leading figures of punk fashion, abandoned her allegiance when rips, zips and safety pins were adopted by mainstream designers such as Zandra Rhodes. Westwood implicitly acknowledged that the fashion industry drains subcultural styles of their coolness.
my boyfriend and i are planning on taking a trip to nyc! i know you've done several "what to do in nyc" posts before, but i have two questions: a) where's a good central area to stay? b) financially, what's a reasonable price for a 4 day trip? (we're grad students :) we're in the budgeting and planning phase and want to make sure we're not in over our heads for how much to spend/bring with us.
Stay in a little room at the Ace Hotel, and budget $150 per diem for inexpensive eats, beer or wine, and Metrocards. Skip the cabs and walk everywhere. Take the Staten Island Ferry for a free harbor tour. Forget the fancy dinners—there’s better food to be eaten for half the price at little holes in the wall. If you’re dying to shop, hit the second-hand stores in the East Village. Desperately seeking something swankier? Prepare to invest—and relax. You’re on vacation. Welcome to New York!
My friends and I are graduating college in May and want to bum around a beach town for a few months before starting our big girl jobs in August. Newport is on our short list- any recommendations for where to live cheaply? Preferably within walking distance to town and/or beach.
Newport is the best, hands down. But first: nothing is close to both town and beach unless you have a bike. Buy a bicycle. Next: Get an apartment in some tumble-down house on the west side of Broadway or just off upper Thames. Work in a restaurant or a bar. Find a summer boyfriend. Drink lots of rum. If you’re lucky, you’ll never leave.
I just found your Tumblr and I absolutely love it. Your life seems to be full of great people and great memories. How do you balance it all? How do you form great relationships with your girls? How do you keep your life fun and exciting? I'm finishing up graduate school and can visualize the life I want to have, but the same monotonous routine seems to creep back up.
First, thank you! Second, I don’t balance it all. Different aspects of my life take priority at different times. What helps keep me sane and successful is knowing what to prioritize when—be it my friendships, my relationship with my mister, my job, or my running habit—and knowing when to shift gears. I keep life fun by breaking the routine now and then, and I keep it calm by staying close to home and quiet whenever I can. Give yourself two nights a week to go wild—maybe one night out with the girls and one date night—and take mini-vacations ever four to eight weeks. Try new workout classes, read weird books, bum around far-flung neighborhoods. Consider your routine the cake and everything else icing. You can’t enjoy one without the other.
Getting ready to turn 30, ah! Suggestions for a great way to ring in a new decade!?
Without knowing where in the world you are, I can only make general recommendations: early morning workout, afternoon at the spa with your mom or best friend, then get a blowout, nails, and makeup, and go somewhere really fun (not necessarily fancy but fun) for dinner and drinks. Happy birthday!
…this is the speech that I wrote and delivered at my friend Kate’s wedding this past New Year’s Eve.
One of the greatest mysteries is the bond that exists between a husband and his wife. Seven billion people in this world and an infinite number of pairs—mother to daughter, brother to brother, son to sister—but of all these great mysterious couplings, the greatest is that of a man and a woman wedded together.
Kate has been a best friend of mine for ten years now. I lived with her once, in college, and I could finish her sentences, I could almost read her mind—but I never did. Now Scott has known her half as long, just over six years, but he knows her better than anyone else in the world. And she knows him. And today, they not only join hands in marriage but become in the eyes of God, one—one pair made one whole person—two bodies, one heart, one mind, and the mystery of their bond grows.
Even since Homer’s Odysseus endured his famous sojourn in the Trojan War and on the Mediterranean Sea, absent for twenty years from his wife Penelope, great romantic love has been defined, it seems, by its fortitude in the face of adversity. Superhuman physical strength beats the odds for love in movie theaters the world over, in poetry and novels and our imaginations. In reality, it is not brute force that conquers all but the strength of getting up in the morning and facing every day loving this one person as much as you always did and always will in spite of real odds: growing older, raising children, earning a living, facing death and taxes and new life together.
Life will not be perfect for Kate and Scott, just as it never has been before, and though their dreams may not always come true—Kate will likely never become a ballerina nor Scott an astronaut—they will still find in that mysterious marital bond something extraordinary. No one but they will ever know or understand their love for each other or their secrets or their weaknesses; no one but Kate or Scott will ever know what it means to be Kate and Scott, and from that private knowledge, from that secret is, I think, where the strength of love is born. It is the only love that cannot be shared between anyone but Kate or Scott; it is theirs alone to cultivate, to evolve, to make fruitful.
Love is a cage and it is freedom, it is strength and weakness and joy and resolve, and, yes, love is patient and love is kind. Today, Kate and Scott will redefine their love for one another in a new and ancient way, and we—not knowing the mystery between them—can only guess and wonder, confident, at least, that they have each put themselves and the other in good hands for their odyssey that lies ahead.
“The fact that nearly ten million good-looking people tolerate today’s sidewalks coated in an ice-encrusted layer of snow covering near-frozen slush lakes is de facto proof that New York is America’s best city.”—Hamilton Nolan, Gawker
Do you ever struggle with procrastination as a writer? How do you push through?
Yes. Just start writing about anything. Write a book report. Write an essay about your favorite stuffed animal. Write a letter to you dad. Eventually one word will pop out and remind of what you really wanted to write, and you’ll say O! and the block will disappear. Also, a deadline and accountability to someone other than myself always helps.
love the blog! here's my dilemma: going to be in rome (!) for a week this june, am at a loss as to where to find the perfect sundress that's loose, collared, simple, comfy, etc. to wear with brown leather sandals for during the day. limited budget because i'd prefer to save for the trip. help!
This dress by Club Monaco would look perfect in any ristorante, and the covered sleeves make it ideal for visiting cathedrals. Buon viaggio!
What are your thoughts on unfriending an ex on Facebook? I feel like in this technological age it's nearly impossible to really move on, but I don't want it to seem like I'm being dramatic about the whole thing.
I always unfriend exes on Facebook. Life is too short to waste time trolling old pictures, new wall posts from mysterious women, and stale memories. Give up his ghost, and if you’re being dramatic, so what? It’s your life and nobody else’s.
Cary, Let's talk books. Reading. Between work, boy, friends and running, I feel like I have no time (other than my twice daily subway ride). How do you do it? Also, kindle? And favorite books? I know, annoying question. Xo
First: Questions about books are never annoying. I too am often confined to my subway rides for reading time, and if that’s all you’ve got, that’s okay! Better a book than Candy Crush. I also read in bed before turning out the light each night (daily target: ten pages) and sometimes in the morning before I get up. I read on airplanes and trains, in cabs and buses, waiting in line at the drugstore. I love to set page goals for myself: 100 pages in a weekend, for example, or 3 chapters by Friday. I make reading part of my schedule and respect it for what it is. When I’m reading, there is no better way I could spend my time.
Never had a Kindle, although I read some books on my iPad. For the most part, purchase used books on Amazon or at Book Book in the Village, and I love to check them out at the library.
my parents dont seem to want to meet my boyfriend. how do i change this?
Are your parents dropping hints or explicitly stating their disinterest? Do they see a red flag that you do not? Is he a convicted felon? Is he married? Or are you projecting your own fear that they and the new man might not get along?
Next time you’re in a peaceful environment with Mom and Dad, tell them (gently) how happy you are with Billy Ray, how Billy just got a new grill and would love to cook dinner for your family soon, could you all plan a night? If they can’t even feign interest, press a little harder. “Mom, Billy Ray is a fantastic guy, but it’s important to me that you and Dad get to know him because I value your opinions of the people I love.”
If that doesn’t work, make it work. Your parents are going to the movies next Friday? That’s crazy, you and Billy Ray are doing the same thing. Oops, look who we ran into! Daddy, this is Bill; Bill, this is my dad Bob…”
If they’re still ice cold, let it go. Assuming your boyfriend is a decent guy, they will warm up eventually. It’s hard not to like a man who makes your daughter happy.
“Summer in New York is when I really vibe with my closet. When it starts to get cold here, I don’t know what to do with myself, because I can’t wear what I love. I get in this funk of just jeans, t-shirt, sweaters, and whatever. And then I go home and have my full closet, and it’s like my soul gets revived.”—Atlanta de Cadenet Taylor, Into the Gloss
Hi Cary! I broke up with my longtime boyfriend and I'm finally ready to put myself out there again-- I'm visiting NYC soon and I'd really just like to go out, have fun, and get hit on (is that bad? my ego could use it!) Where are some good spots in NYC to flirt flirt flirt? Thank you!!
When my girlfriends feel like man-huntin’, we usually start at Ainsworth Park, Catch, or the General for the late happy hour-to-dinner transition, and then find our way (avec les hommes) to whatever lounge is hot at the moment. For daytime fun time, try the Biergarten at the Standard Hotel, Bounce (if you’re a sports fan), or call up the guys you met last night, and find out where the house party is. Still not satisfied? Hie thee to Madison Square Garden for a Rangers home game. Good luck!
Cary, help needed! Yes or no to wearing a clothing brand to an interview for that very company? (Say, Lilly Pulitzer for example.)
If you already have something by the designer, go for it. But I would not recommend running to the flagship and dropping a grand on a brand new outfit just to impress HR. Instead, take a look at the brand’s recent collections, find some common themes (not trends), and shop your closet to echo those themes. But dress in season! Last July’s Lilly shift will not mesh well with black tights and a parka.
saturday marks the start of my 3rd decade, and the thing that's occupying the majority of my thoughts about the milestone is what i'm going to wear. thoughts/recommendations? first - i live in blustery MN. second - nights festivities are dinner with my bf and then drinks at a taproom with the rest of my loves.
Very short skirt, opaque black tights, booties, and the chunkiest sweater you can find. Finish with red lipstick. Happy birthday!