Cary... any videos you can recommend that give instructions on good running form? Back in the day my trainer gave me pointers, but after a long hiatus I forget much of what he taught me-- and I'm not in the financial position right now to go back to a trainer.
There is no “right” way to run, but in general, you want to keep your body straight up and down, with feet striking directly under the hips held directly under the shoulders. Relax your shoulders and neck—this place gets enough tension anyway, and there’s no need to waste energy on nervous muscles. Think chill. When your shoulders start to creep up and tighten, consciously roll them back and roll your head around to loosen those muscles. Keep the arms close to the body and the hands in loose fists; again, the key here is to relax. The only thing working hard should be your legs!
Follow up to my first question on recommendations for running in the winter. How do you hydrate on those cold nights? I live in the city but I have a feeling that the fountains will be off/frozen and that my hydrobelt will freeze relatively quickly. Any suggestions??
I hydrate in winter just like any other time, although it is harder at this time to judge when I’m really thirsty. Most fountains in NYC’s parks are shut off so you def want to bring fluids with you, and thankfully, your fuel belt will NOT freeze! What with the constant movement and closeness to your body, the water will stay water—and refreshingly cold—so get excited… No excuses not to run!
I'm going to be training for my second marathon (first attempt at a spring marathon) this winter. Any tips you could recommend to help me survive the New England weather?
Invest in lots of layers! Target and Old Navy have great options for thermal jackets and tights (think cheap because you’ll want a lot of stuff), and a legit pair of running gloves—sold at places like New Balance or North Face—will do wonders. Also, don’t forget to hydrate on your long runs. In the winter, we tend to feel less sweaty during outdoor workouts, but that doesn’t mean you’re not losing water and electrolytes, so if you don’t already have a fuel belt, now is the time. Lastly, try to enjoy the cold! Running in sub-freezing temps can be a bitch, but it can also feel exhilarating, especially when we spend so much time cooped up inside. Consider each run your opportunity to shake out the cabin fever, soak up vitamin D, and otherwise be a wild child till it’s time to go back in and hibernate. Best of luck with training!
Well, you should. It has changed my workout routine. $99 a month for up to ten classes at studios around the New York area—literally hundreds of studios and thousands of classes to choose from. Or commit for a full year, and get unlimited classes each month. I can’t speak highly enough of the customer service or the scheduling platform, and the cancellation process is easy-breezy (should you decide to be lazy). Seriously. Join CLASSPASS now. Before Mother Nature brings us another Winter From Hell and it’s too cold to run outside and you resort to doing Zumba routines on the subway because there’s no other alternative.
“I’m not really a big drinker, more of a bar food person actually—such a sucker for jalapeño poppers. The Levee in Williamsburg—they have great food. It’s so gross—things like cheesy fries—and it’s stupid bad for you, but I eat it anyway. I might bring along a flask filled with Fireball. People say that’s a frat boy thing, but how was I supposed to know?”—Taylor LaShae, speaking to Into the Gloss (I have no idea who this lady is, but after reading the above, she’s my new favorite star.)
Do you really work 10-6 at RL? I also work in fashion, but our office is more like 8:00-6:30, and even that isn't considered enough. My boss also left for maternity leave so I am literally working two jobs for the price of one, and I know I am drastically underpaid to begin with. How can I work this in my favor, either at my current company, or somewhere else if a promotion isn't presented in the nearish future? I feel like I'm drowning here and I have nothing to show for it.
I do work ten to six, but I also eat lunch at my desk every day and spend a lot of downtime meeting with writers, researching story ideas, and otherwise “working” when not working. If you feel like you’re being poorly compensated for your work, making a list of everything you do at your job, some of your recent achievements, your goals for the future, and a few clear ideas of what you could accomplish with more money and/or an assistant. Go to your boss (when she’s in a great mood), and lay it out. Be gracious. Try not to complain too much about what you’re not getting (money, respect, free time, a life), and focus on how much more you could do for your company if they give you more opportunity to succeed.
Example: Right now, I’m covering my own position and that of the PR coordinator. I understand that we may not be in a position to hire a full-time replacement for the PR role, but a part-time or freelance assistant could help the whole department.
Example: I’ve been covering two positions full-time for the past six months and despite the overload have still managed to improve our numbers over last fiscal year. At this rate, we’re on track to double those numbers in FY15. With this in mind, would you be open to talk about a raise in compensation?
If you love what you’re doing and can’t imagine leaving, consider picking up some freelance work on the weekends. Write, style shoots, consult on marketing projects. Or do something totally unrelated. Get a front desk job at the gym so you never have to pay for Equinox again. Babysit.
Still feel as though you’re drowning? Time to update the résumé.
I am looking for the perfect heel to get me through a day/evening in Newport RI (early September) I love nude but I am wondering if I should invest in a good black shoe. Looking for advice thank you
If you don’t have a good black shoe yet, this wedding sounds like the perfect excuse to shop. Polo Ralph Lauren’s new patent leather Mary Jane has a block heel that will support you through day and night festivities but is still sleek enough for the office and for evening engagements back home. If you’d like a more traditional pump, Stuart Weitzman’s Queen style is off the charts and comes in several different shades, should you decide something jewel-toned (totally not as versatile as black or nude but definitely, absolutely amazing). A third option is grey, which has the benefit of pairing with more colors than stark black yet looks no less elegant, especially at a wedding. For that I recommend Schutz’s Rita d’Orsay heel.
Lately, I’ve found myself eating a lot of snacks. Normally, I’m not a snacker. I eat two big meals a day and, for roughly one week per month, a third meal consistently entirely of chocolate around three in the afternoon. But as an adult I rarely snack the way I did in, say, junior year of high school, when I regularly polished off entire boxes of Cheez-Its while mindlessly surfing the still nascent internet.
But lately as in right now, here I am tossing back a plastic cup full of Annie’s Cheddar Bunnies (so much tastier than their Pepperidge Farm predecessor) on the heels of two pieces of pork jerky and chocolate-covered macadamia nuts. I look around the office. An economy-sized bag of peanut M&Ms holds court in the middle of a work station. Cheddar Bunnies are piled everywhere. It’s snack time at Ralph Lauren!
Point being it’s okay to have snacks in the middle of the afternoon if they’re lying around, and I probably didn’t need to eat that entire Chipotle burrito last night.
alright. high school reunion coming up and i'm heading back to ladue/st. louis. it's been awhile. what to wear?
Depends on what message you’re trying to communicate, I suppose. (I skipped my recent ten-year reunion, oops.) If there’s some dude that is still semi-in-the-picture, I’d go for broke in a classic red dress. If the mood is casual and you’re just there to throw some back with the old girl gang, how about a weird, fashiony leather short and blouse? Regardless, throw lots of sleek silver jewelry into the mix—it’s more unexpected than gold. Get a blow-out and manicure before the party, leave the yearbook at home, and when you run into people who were mean to you way back when, be super-friendly. It will drive them crazy.
My long distance boyfriend is coming into NY for our anniversary at the end of Sept. Any suggestions for dinner? Looking for something intimate and romantic, preferably in the West Village. He's not a big foodie so trying to stay away from any places with too adventurous a menu. Thanks!
Regarding your answer to the uniform question, what brand of men's button-down shirts do you prefer? I'm having a hard time finding one that isn't too tight around my hips and isn't too billowy elsewhere. I'm about 5'10" and usually wear somewhere in the size 4-6 range in dresses/skirts.
Tell me more about the yoga (please)! I'm recovering from a back injury too and miss yoga very much, but am afraid of hurting myself all over again. What poses are being recommended to you?
Hi there, I am once again new to yoga after a year’s absence from the mat. Gave it up last summer due to a back injury! My doctor guessed that yoga was the reason for pinched vertebra; she assumed (rightly) that overstraining my back in an effort to perfect poses harmed more than helped.
But I have never felt better about my body than I did when I was attending Vinyasa classes regularly, and just last month, I returned with a new focus on strengthening my body first and reaching full bow second. And instead of Vinyasa, I’m going to Iyengar classes at Yoga Shanti. Founded by B.K.S. Iyengar, this practice focuses on alignment, posture, and the very tiny movements that occur in each pose. It’s a slow process with lots of talk and observation and very little flow, but I’m learning how to move in and out of each pose correctly, and that in turn makes me stronger.
As neither doctor nor yogi, I can’t advise you on poses to ease your back pain, but I do recommend trying Iyengar yoga to stretch things out and draw you back in at a careful, considerate pace (after consulting with your doc, of course). Namaste!
Hi Cary! Can you explain or just elaborate on your idea of a "uniform". I love the concept, but I have no idea how to put it into daily practice. Thank you!
For me, a uniform isn’t just owning five identical shirts and skirts and wearing them every day; it’s a set of guidelines for building my wardrobe. I used to be adventurous and try every trend, but for the last year or so, I (and, it seems, every other fashion editor) gravitate to solid black and white, simple cuts, and slim lines.
My uniform consists of skinny white jeans, men’s button-down shirts, plain black dresses, black skirts, and white t-shirts. Practically every day I wear some variation of the above. When I shop, I look for the same with special details—a black pencil skirt with a bold silver zipper, a charcoal dress with a micro pleat, an oversized oxford shirt that fits just so. I don’t want to wear the same thing every day, but I do want to feel as confident and comfortable as I possibly can.
Once you’ve experimented with enough styles and silhouettes, you should have an idea of what really makes you feel great. Is it the color red? Black denim? Bold floral prints? Fill your closet with pieces that fit those strictures and your “uniform” will happen naturally.
A year and a half ago, I moved halfway around the world to the Pacific Northwest from my hometown in South India. I left home with bittersweet feelings — I was excited for the new possibilities, but at the same time, sad to leave everything familiar and dear back home. It was a big, tumultuous move and the one thing that remained constant for me was yoga. It was my friend when I had none, it gave me a sense of purpose when I woke up each morning. For several months, I struggled with the challenges of settling in a new country — I did not know how to drive, had to get used to a winter unlike any I had experienced, find a house, furnish the house, find a job and get my life in order. It was not easy and I was often very lonely and bitter about having left so much behind. But being someone who has always been driven, I woke up and pursued yoga every day. I’d go to yoga classes nearby, and try to make friends with students. I read up about the local yoga events and community. Yoga became my best friend all over again and kept me sane and happy. It made me feel like I was home.
“I opted for a scrubbed-clean, polished look. I thought it was more important to have an intelligence that showed, a humor that never failed, and a healthy interest in men.”—Nancy “Slim” Keith, Slim: Memories of a Rich and Imperfect Life (1990)
Hi! I am going to a racing event in the end of August (i wanted to ask with enough time for an answer :D). It is a fancy ladies day event. I have never been to this type of event and I wanted to know if you had any suggestions on what I should wear. I don't want to spend a lot of money buying a crazy dress, as I am a simpler person, but I do want to look good and nice. Do you have any suggestions to help me out? Thanks!
A skirt and cardigan combo is elegant without being stodgy, provided you leave the top couple buttons undone, and any bright dress will also do. Just steer clear of sparkles, sequins, and workaday neutrals, and finish with a flat sandal or wedge heel, and you should be good to go. Not into the whole dress idea? A linen pant and loose silk top will blow away the competition. Happy styling, and have fun!
A friend and I are thinking of spending one night in NYC in the fall this year, and although we are splitting the bill for a double bed room, I have no idea which hotels to consider that won't break the bank (we're college students working part-time). Any suggestions? Midtown area is fine, but downtown is great too. Anything! Thanks!
The Ace Hotel is surprisingly cheap, given its coolness. The Jane Hotel, with its bunk bed rooms and communal bathrooms, are also ideal for the fiscally responsible. Bonus at both inns: You won’t have to go far at all for a good time late night.
I'm 29 years old and have dated just about every man under the New York sun. Nothing seems to work out. I'm constantly losing to other women and starting to feel like there's no one left. I can be happy alone, but I don't WANT to be alone. I go to bars, work on my online profile, sign up for hiking and sports activities. I'm doing everything, and nothing is happening. I'm down in the dumps. What if no one is left? Seeking advice from a dating Queen who found love in this awfully tough city.
First, let’s parse your message. You’ve dated just about every man under the New York sun? Write a list of all the men you’ve dated. Seriously. Write their names down. How many make the cut? Now multiply that number by a few thousand. That’s how many potential soul mates are out there in this empire city, taking all the important factors into consideration (age, relationship to mother, sports teams).
Sentence three: You’re constantly losing to other women. Really? Are you really losing the guys who, I don’t know, throw up in the cab after taking you to T.G.I.Friday’s and leave before dawn after a wasted romp and don’t call for ten days and then magically reappear and tuck their t-shirts into their underwear, etc. etc.? The guys with no money or dreams? The jerk-offs and asshats and wiseacres and losers? Are you really losing them? Honey, you don’t want those guys. And furthermore, it’s not a contest.
Four: I’m starting to feel like there’s no one left. Next time you leave your apartment, count all the men you pass on your way to the coffee shop next door. Check their left ring fingers. Everyone without a wedding ring might still be in the game. Every polo-wearing prepster in line at the bar at the Grey Lady is in the game. There are many men left in New York City.
Five: You can be happy alone, but you don’t want to be alone. Focus on the “I can be happy” part. Whatever makes you happy, do it. Even if you’re alone. I don’t want to be a blonde; I want dark hair like my sister. But I’m happy with blonde hair. Having blonde hair is not critical to my happiness. The same with your relationship status.
You do everything, and nothing is happening. Where are your friends? What are they doing? Are they all tied up with boyfriends? Are they introducing you to dudes? Friends of friends of friends? Are you taking a few nights off each week to do your own thing? Treat yourself like your own girlfriend, and soon the guys will stop smelling your on-the-hunt scent and pop out of corners you didn’t even know existed.
Last point: I am no dating queen—I am a girl who finally started taking her own advice.
Suggestions for summer work staples (business casual) that will keep one cool and sleek? Many thanks!
Jersey knit dresses like this one by Blue Label will look equally office appropriate with a ballet flat or an espadrille wedge. Add a blazer to meet a more conservative dress code; a denim jacket will look good in casual but A/C cold cubicles. If you prefer pants, the J.Crew chino looks awesome with a silk blouse and high heel. Just cuff the khaki to flash a little ankle.
I have a number of weddings coming up and I'm having the hardest time finding the right shoes. I'd love to find a heel that would work with my main two workhorse wedding guest dresses this summer, both of which are tailored, hourglass-enhancing sheaths - navy and a blush lace. A neutral of some sort, perhaps a light gold? I'd rather not go the sandal route, and would prefer to keep the height below 3".
The mister and I like to talk about our get-out-of-jail-free picks. You know, like, if he ran into Cindy Crawford tomorrow, and they had a wild tryst, he'd get out of jail free. I could never fault him for going even part of the way with Cindy Crawford. My list? Well, it's a lot longer than his. Herewith, the men of my unfaithful dreams: