Anonymous asked: the last time i saw my dude's parents, they'd come by his apt, unannounced, one morning to find me, dressed haphazardly & playing mariokart on his couch. i'd met them once before, but they had no idea i was having regular sleepovers w/their son (at the time, it was a new thing). 'twas awkward but not unbearable. it's been a few months now; he invited me to a party...
Anonymous asked: So I met a guy at a wedding and we had a lot of fun- danced the entire time. He texted me after the reception to say that he also had fun and that it was nice to meet me. I'm asking you because I feel that you'll give an honest answer, but would it be weird to text him about possibly meeting up for drinks? Is there a breezy & casual way to do this, or is it a terrible idea?
sooo asked: Do you believe men and women can be just friends? You talk/post a fair amount about your female friends but I don't see a lot of platonic dudes up in the mix. A month ago I would have rolled my eyes and been, OF COURSE guys and girs can just be friends, but since then, two of my three best dude friends (the third is in a serious relationship with an awesome chick) made it clear they wanted...
At least three coworkers in the last week: I always interrupt you when you're eating.
Me: Yeah, well, I'm always eating.
Anonymous asked: looking for super-classy prom dresses, with unique detailing. any ideas?
Anonymous asked: I'm visiting NYC for the first time with a couple of girlfriends in May. What are a couple of places you'd recommend where we can go dancing? Can you share some pics or ideas for typical going-out outfits in NYC? ps: Love you, love your blog.
It’s finally official: As of June 3, I am Senior Editor of RL Magazine. This book is my baby. Two years after writing my first article, it is so thrilling to take the reins and recast RL Mag as a more dynamic and provocative publication with a worldwide scope and distinctly American point of view—one worthy of its namesake.
Anonymous asked: Hi Cary! As a fellow Missourian turned city-dweller, I love your blog. I'm going to a wedding Memorial Day weekend in Memphis that is black tie optional (my boyfriend will be in a tux) and in a beautiful old hotel. Any suggestions on a go-to black tie optional dress for someone who is thin but on the busty side? It's hard finding something not strapless or boob-y.
jenver asked: I love maxi dresses (patterned, plain, bare, covered), but I do not love cardigans with them. I am 5'8 / hourglassy with a little more sand in the bottom and like to emphasize my smaller waist. Besides my denim jacket, what can I throw over one to look casually chic? I've been looking for a non-blazery white blazer to start...
daniellesmyname asked: Bachelorette party this weekend and we have to wear black dresses. I procrastinated, couldn't find something 'more fun', so I've got a black sleeveless, church-acceptable length, chiffon-y wrap dress. It does have a pretty plunging neckline... Styling ideas? Trying not to look too ladylike.
Anonymous asked: Hey Cary! Love your blog, your fresh take and crisp writing is fantastic. I'm a university student living in Paris but moving to Washington next year (Go Hoyas!) - was wondering if you have any recommendations of things to do, places to eat, places to go out, etc. Also my Parisian wardrobe is essential LBDs and, well, other black accoutrements, and I've been told those won't fly on...
Going to bed with someone you don’t love is a lot lonelier than going to...– Mom
Anonymous asked: Hey Cary, I am graduating from college this May and will be moving to a brand new city all by myself just cause I've always wanted to. I've been applying for tons of jobs, but so far no bite. I'm not opposed to waitressing or barista-ing to make ends meet until something comes up. But as someone who will have a degree I feel sort of lame not getting a "big girl job" right...
Anonymous asked: I'm 23. Met a guy a few years older (online), seemingly harmless, very smart, has a great job and great manners. He's interested and he's coming on strong and I'm feeling nervous (history of past skittishness). Classic case of you want what you can't have, or legitimately founded skepticism in online dating?
Anonymous asked: I'm interested in getting into running, but I have a dumb question: What in the world do I wear? I have good shoes, but it's the clothes that confound me. What would you suggest for an absolute beginner who doesn't want to call too much attention to herself?
From the Atlantic: "Cyclists Aren't Special" →
Is it fair if bikers get tickets when motorists don’t? Nope. You know what else isn’t fair? Everything. Deal with it. - Sarah Goodyear for the Atlantic Don’t care much about the cyclists v. drivers debate. (I do my bike-riding indoors.) The tone of this article, however, is awesome.
I can run fast, forever, et cetera, but when it comes to any other kind of physical activity (except golf, tennis, beer pong, shuffleboard, skiing, spinning, driving a jet-ski, doing donuts in a golf cart, and shoe-shopping), I pretty much suck. Thus, ever since signing up for the Can Lake 50, I have struggled to find a cross-training method that will challenge my body but not my bank account....
Anonymous asked: Cary, I've been dating the same guy for a year and a half and things are just dandy; we're so in love and he's my absolute best friend. But I'm getting really tired of footing the bill (we're in college and shit gets tight.) Every time I bring money issues up he gets defensive and claims that he spends all of his money on us, when in reality I pay a majority of the time....
Anonymous asked: Hey Cary! Love your blog. So lately I've been a little bored with life and am contemplating cutting my hair really short (almost pixie?). My hair is currently past my shoulders. Have you ever done a drastic cut like this? Any advice? Also, I'm a runner so I'm concerned about "dealing" with it while working out - any suggestions on that front? Thanks!
The writer should never be ashamed of staring. There is nothing that doesn’t...– Flannery O’Connor, born on this day in 1925 Via.
Me: [singing] Whoa, here she comes. Watch out, boy, she'll screw you up.
Him: I think it's "She'll CHEW you up."
Me: She'll chew him up, and that'll screw him up.
idekumiko asked: Come May, my boyfriend is graduating from business school in Cambridge and I'm hoping that you might help me with some weather-appropriate ideas for the commencement ceremony (to be held outdoors). I've followed your blog for years and found lots of great style inspiration during that time - I was thinking of going for a pencil skirt/dress and blazer, but am open to any suggestions!
Anonymous asked: The SO & I recently got hitched in court. At his parents insistence, we will be having a small, casual dinner party with family and friends to celebrate our marriage. What would you wear to such an occasion?
daniellesmyname asked: Just picked up a navy sleeveless polkadot shirtdress for a wedding shower and/or Easter this weekend, but can't figure out how to style it without looking total country club. Advice?
Anonymous asked: Hey Cary. I've got my college graduation coming up and I need a dress for commencement. I'm hoping for something that is bright and makes me shine, but the catch is that I'm hoping to spend less than $100. Any suggestions?
From the NYT: Depressing as Fuck. →
We are now in the midst of a national attempt to maximize leisure time the way Americans once joined together to beat the Russians to the moon. Quality time used to mean time away from the pressures of work or ambition. Now it means exactly the opposite: time spent working on getting the most and the best in just about every category of existence. - Lee Seigel for the New York Times
Me: These jockeys are kinda hot.
Lena: Baby, they are four-foot-eight.
Anonymous asked: You're my go-to for all things fitness. So I ask, have you found that spinning bulks up your legs? Is that a myth? Related: what do you make of the Tracy Anderson anti-running crusade? Do we really all have to bounce around on mini-trampolines to get great gams?
Anonymous asked: What gym bag do you use? I've recently joined a pretty swanky gym and my Lilly P reusable tote, while functional, is not cutting it.
Distance running was revered because it was indispensable; it was the way we...– Chris MacDougall, Born to Run
Anonymous asked: Hi Cary! My baby sister (she's 26) is graduating from vet school in May and I am at a complete loss as to what to get her as a gift. My budget is quite tight at the moment so I can't whisk her away on a sister trip to Europe as I'd like, but this is a special occasion, so I don't want to be too cheap either ... I'm thinking I can spend $100. Considering her career path,...
erinsshenanigans asked: Hey Cary, my birthday is coming up this weekend (Cinco de Mayo!) and my friends and I are stumped on where to go in NYC. We'd like to avoid the Mexican restaurant craziness, and go somewhere with great food, drink & atmosphere. I have friends coming from Hoboken NJ, Brooklyn and Harlem, and I'm hoping to go somewhere that won't completely break these gals' bank. Any...
Anonymous asked: Hey Cary! Loving your Q&As! Here's a question for you: What do you say to non-Southerners (Yankees, y'all) who insult the South? I find it so rude and also have noticed that it is always a rougher type that says these sorts of things; nevertheless, I would love to have something with which to reply other than my tolerant smile and mental eye-rolling. Xoxo from a Mississippi...
Anonymous asked: Should being called "intimidating" by peers be construed as a compliment or insult?
Max: Good weather today.
Me: Seriously? Do we have nothing more interesting to say to each other?
Max: There was a dead body in my park this morning.
Me: See, now that's more interesting.