Do you write Thanks at the end of every work email? I do this even when I have nothing to be thankful for and when, worst of all, I should really be saying You’re welcome. Or if I have been thanked, I’ll write You’re welcome, and thank you! Thank you for thanking me. Thank you for making these countless hours of Outlook correspondence so joyful. Sometimes I write Thanks! to be on the safe side, like in case I should be grateful, in case something important happened for my benefit and to eschew Thanks! would be to drive a stake between my colleague and me. And then I feel foolish. What if the recipient of the email (and my gratitude) reads it and thinks, Thanks?What does she have to be thankful for? I just dumped a pile of work on her desk, and it’s all due tomorrow. Or what if my uniform Thanks! become useless with overuse, a word devoid of meaning like love on a drunken first date or Peter’s Wolf!? What if? What if switched to the insufferable Best or the unprofessional (but most truthful) TTYL!* What can be better than what I think might be the worst? But I just sent an email without saying Thanks! and it felt cold. Heartless.
Sup pup! I've been seeing this guy on and off for over 2 yrs. We've never been official due to multiple factors (he's 27, I'm 21. I live in DC, he lives in Miami etc.) We've been seeing each other a lot this year and I thought things were progressing past our usual casualness. Recently found out he's been keeping in contact with his ex (her fb pic is of them). He tells me she's on the back burner bc he doesn't know how I'll feel from one day to the next but I'm the one he wants long term...WWCD?
Okay, friend, this man is seeing his ex and keeping you on the back burner. Drop him like he’s hot (which, ironically, he is definitely not).
I am doing my first half-marathon this summer. I wonder, how is one supposed to keep drinking water during the long runs leading up to race day, if one is running outside? Do you carry a bottle of water? Seems... hassle-y. Thank you in advance for the help.
How long do you think it's ok for a relationship to stay casual before it turns in to serious?
As long as it needs to take. A relationship isn’t third base—you can’t steal it—and it’s not a combustion engine—you can’t jumpstart it—and it’s not anything else that can be forced from one state to another. Take your time with him (or her), and if it takes too long, then on to the next.
Do you have any good sunless tanners you recommend? We are moving into shorts weather but my skin is still winter white...
I prefer to bronze my skin the natural way (under the noonday sun or the hot lights of a tanning bed) or not bronze it at all, as lotions and potions scare the vitamin D right out of me…however a good friend recommends St. Tropez.
…or what are you reading these days? I’m talking online. Blogs, journals, magazines, whatever. My current fashion/style routine includes the usual suspects (Into the Gloss, Man Repeller, the Cut, Who What Wear, Elin Kling, Sea of Shoes, etc.), but I need fresh blood. New, weird, totally out of my wheelhouse, it’s all welcome. (I also read the National Review and the Daily Mail for news, and that will never change; let’s leave politics out of this conversation.) So. Who—or what?
How to thrive at a party where you don't know anyone (or maybe just the host) and not look painfully uncomfortable?
First, have a cocktail. Then, tell your host(ess) what you just told me : “I don’t know anyone here besides you! Could you introduce me to some of your friends?” Then find common ground, and talk about it: “You live in the East Village? I just had dinner there last night! Have you been to the Mermaid Inn? Those Old Bay french fries!” Play the name game: “My best friend from middle school works there, too. Do you know Bobby Ray Cyrus in the IT department? No, not Billy Ray, although I do like his music…”
And so on and so forth. Still not feeling it? Say your goodbyes, and peace out. No harm, no foul.
I'm turning 21 this year, and want to do something special. Not so over the top, or anything. Maybe a nice dinner (& drinks) and shopping in the city—what would you recommend? Also, TriBeCa Grand Hotel, worth a stay for a night? Thanks in advance. :)
Never stayed at the Tribeca Grand, but if its rooms are anything like its parties, then you will not be disappointed. How about dinner, drinks, and dancing at Acme, a fantasy shopping trip to Bergdorf Goodman, and brunch at Locanda Verde? Happy birthday!
Do you think having a blog helped you on a professional level? Was it a part of your job search in any way or did you send it to potential employers so they'd understand your taste?
Yes, absolutely. My boss hired me because he loved my blog. The key is too keeping it tightly curated and elegantly designed and never posting anything that you wouldn’t want your mom or boss or coworkers to see.
About to go on a ski trip with the boy this weekend. Haven't skiied since I was a kid but he's amazing at it, I'm nervous. I think there will be others in the group who are also inexperienced. How not to be an idiot? How to look stylish? What do people wear skiing that's cheap? He's hosting and has to tend to everyone, so he won't be able to spend the whole time just teaching me and laughing at how cute I look when I fall on my ass. I don't want to drag everyone else down!
I don’t know… I haven’t skied in years! But you can never go wrong in head-to-toe black, and odds are you have a girl friend with gear to lend. Just stick to the blue and green slopes, and don’t be afraid to ask your man for a refresher course on day one. Still worried about bringing up the rear? Make Irish coffees for everyone’s après ski refreshment, and bring a sweet dance party playlist.
Tips for job interviews in the NYC blogging/editorial world this spring? I'm a college student here in the city, about to graduate, have interned at lots of places & everyone seems to dress pretty casual (but still pulled together) at the kinds of publications I work at...I know people say being overdressed is far better than underdressed, but what's the happy medium here? I feel like showing up in pantyhose & a suit in these creative, casual office environments would just look bizarre. Thanks!
I graduate from college in NYC in May. Where to take the extended family for brunch afterward? My commencement will be at Lincoln Center but I'm willing to go to another neighborhood (the Village perhaps?). My school itself is on the Upper East Side so that might also be a place to go if only because of the nostalgia of a day like that. Many thanks!
The Lincoln Center area will be crazy after commencement, so I’d plan to travel if I were you. Head straight downtown for brunch at the Standard Grill in the Meat Packing District or halfway across the park to Sarabeth’s. Both, I believe, take reservations.
Would it kill you to give a clothing recommendation from somewhere other than Ralph Lauren? From what I understand you work there, but I doubt everything in your closet is from that one store.. Just feelin' a little variety would be nice.
It would not kill me, of course, but why would I not support the brand when I do love the product, believe in its quality, and rarely shop anywhere else? (Even my vintage purchases are all Ralph Lauren these days.)
Hi Cary! So I am not a runner, never have been, but I would love to start. People have told me to go to an athletic shoe store and have them tell me what type of running shoe to get, but I don't necessarily want to break the bank with the perfect shoe for me. Maybe later, but not now. Is there a running shoe/brand you would recommend that would be good for someone who wants to begin to moderately run? I'm not planning on marathons or anything, just want to start exercising my legs more. Thanks!
I would go to a running store and get fitted for a proper shoe. Any salesperson there can tell you how you strike, what your stride is like, and what kind of shoe you need to maximize your unique performance. Inform them of your budget; they’ll know the inventory and may be able to cut you a deal on a trial pair or even let you test a couple pairs for a few days before committing.
As for me, I recommend starting with ASICS’ Gel series: they are good neutral shoes for casual runners and are often on sale for less than $80. The first pair should last four to six months (or 500 miles); hopefully by then, you’ll have established a nice running habit. Good luck!