The tulips! They’re set to pop. They’re everywhere. SPRING!
Do you write Thanks at the end of every work email? I do this even when I have nothing to be thankful for and when, worst of all, I should really be saying You’re welcome. Or if I have been thanked, I’ll write You’re welcome, and thank you! Thank you for thanking me. Thank you for making these countless hours of Outlook correspondence so joyful. Sometimes I write Thanks! to be on the safe side, like in case I should be grateful, in case something important happened for my benefit and to eschew Thanks! would be to drive a stake between my colleague and me. And then I feel foolish. What if the recipient of the email (and my gratitude) reads it and thinks, Thanks? What does she have to be thankful for? I just dumped a pile of work on her desk, and it’s all due tomorrow. Or what if my uniform Thanks! become useless with overuse, a word devoid of meaning like love on a drunken first date or Peter’s Wolf!? What if? What if switched to the insufferable Best or the unprofessional (but most truthful) TTYL!* What can be better than what I think might be the worst? But I just sent an email without saying Thanks! and it felt cold. Heartless.
*Talk to you later!
Anonymous asked: Sup pup! I've been seeing this guy on and off for over 2 yrs. We've never been official due to multiple factors (he's 27, I'm 21. I live in DC, he lives in Miami etc.) We've been seeing each other a lot this year and I thought things were progressing past our usual casualness. Recently found out he's been keeping in contact with his ex (her fb pic is of them). He tells me she's on the back burner bc he doesn't know how I'll feel from one day to the next but I'm the one he wants long term...WWCD?
Okay, friend, this man is seeing his ex and keeping you on the back burner. Drop him like he’s hot (which, ironically, he is definitely not).
Anonymous asked: Tips for staying on a budget while living in NYC?
Bring your lunch to work, flirt with men for drinks, and cancel your gym membership. There are plenty of ways to work out outside.
- Better late than never! The books I read this past long, dark season:
- Philip Roth: Letting Go
- Tobias Wolff: Old School
- David McCollough: 1776
- Michael Bergin: The Other Man
- Bill Bryson: One Summer
- Philip Roth: When She Was Good
- Philip Roth: Portnoy's Complaint
- Philip Roth: Our Gang
- Robert A. Caro: the Power Broker
- Bill Powers: What We Lose in Flowers...
- Raymond Carver: Will You Please Be Quiet, Please?
Meb wins Boston. First American in 31 years. What a moment!
"Victory" by Cy Twombly, 1984.
Anonymous asked: I am doing my first half-marathon this summer. I wonder, how is one supposed to keep drinking water during the long runs leading up to race day, if one is running outside? Do you carry a bottle of water? Seems... hassle-y. Thank you in advance for the help.
Wear this bad mofo. It’s dorky, but it works.
Anonymous asked: How long do you think it's ok for a relationship to stay casual before it turns in to serious?
As long as it needs to take. A relationship isn’t third base—you can’t steal it—and it’s not a combustion engine—you can’t jumpstart it—and it’s not anything else that can be forced from one state to another. Take your time with him (or her), and if it takes too long, then on to the next.
Anonymous asked: Do you have any good sunless tanners you recommend? We are moving into shorts weather but my skin is still winter white...
I prefer to bronze my skin the natural way (under the noonday sun or the hot lights of a tanning bed) or not bronze it at all, as lotions and potions scare the vitamin D right out of me…however a good friend recommends St. Tropez.
Ask. Answer. Anything.
"You are like the Michael Jordan of being a son of a bitch."
Detective Martin Hart, True Detective
…or what are you reading these days? I’m talking online. Blogs, journals, magazines, whatever. My current fashion/style routine includes the usual suspects (Into the Gloss, Man Repeller, the Cut, Who What Wear, Elin Kling, Sea of Shoes, etc.), but I need fresh blood. New, weird, totally out of my wheelhouse, it’s all welcome. (I also read the National Review and the Daily Mail for news, and that will never change; let’s leave politics out of this conversation.) So. Who—or what?