This Rockaway bungalow—profiled today on The Cut—is making me seriously reconsider my Midwestern move. The stained glass! That see-through bathroom floor! The dilapidated pier! Swoon.
Walked through Central Park this past Sunday and on the east side, just north of 70th Street, was this blanket of tiny white aster. Late bloomers, I called them. Such a nice reminder that even in fall and winter there are signs of summer everywhere.
"I would like to think that I am a woman who is comfortable and celebratory of all my strengths, and indulges in the qualities that make me feel beautiful."
Anonymous said: I've spent my summer taking roadtrips and eating like someone who's spent her summer taking roadtrips. It's starting to catch up with me, but I'm having a hard time shaking my cravings for french fries and ice cream all the time. Do you have any food or exercise suggestions to help kickstart that part of my brain that cares about my health?
If you’re in New York, Los Angeles, or Chicago, I first recommend joining Classpass so you can try a bunch of different studios, thus kickstarting a new fitness addiction. If you’re not in one of those cities, ask ten friends what their workout routines are, and then try each one until you find one that sticks.
As for the food, clean out your refrigerator and pantry completely and restock with lots of healthy greens and protein, spirulina, chia seeds, all that crunchy stuff, and make a point to try a new recipe once a week—something that will last a few days so you can live on the leftovers during the work week. When I get in a fitness rut or just need to hit the reset button, new habits—new workouts, new foods—are just the right jumper cables.
Anonymous said: I used to be corporate, but now I'm a stay at home mom - what's a good 'uniform' for me now?
Welcome back home! For a job as demanding as chasing rugrats, you need a wardrobe of easy pieces that can go from playroom floor to lunch date—and I’m not talking about yoga pants. Stretchy skinny denim and ballet flats should be your go-to below the belt and easy jersey tops above. Normally, I’d recommend a neutral palette, but between all the Crayola markers and ketchup and diapers you must encounter on an hourly basis, I bet starched white blouses are not a smart bet. The new POLO for Women collection has some great chambray and plaid button-down shirts that will look rad with an ankle boot and dark jean while showing stains less obviously.
Bottom line: Try to dress up a little bit every day. Do your hair or makeup or slip on your favorite jewelry, even when you’re just chilling at home with the tots. If your house is anywhere near as chaotic as mine was growing up, you (like my poor mother) will benefit from the energy and confidence boost that a smart appearance can provide.
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Dying to get a bike when I move to STL, and this road style by PUBLIC seems right for my needs—fast for fitness yet chill enough for daily commutes. What do my cycling readers think? Any recommendations for brands, style, gear?
Anonymous said: Cary... any videos you can recommend that give instructions on good running form? Back in the day my trainer gave me pointers, but after a long hiatus I forget much of what he taught me-- and I'm not in the financial position right now to go back to a trainer.
There is no “right” way to run, but in general, you want to keep your body straight up and down, with feet striking directly under the hips held directly under the shoulders. Relax your shoulders and neck—this place gets enough tension anyway, and there’s no need to waste energy on nervous muscles. Think chill. When your shoulders start to creep up and tighten, consciously roll them back and roll your head around to loosen those muscles. Keep the arms close to the body and the hands in loose fists; again, the key here is to relax. The only thing working hard should be your legs!
For more info on running technique, check out this video by VO2Max Productions.
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Anonymous said: Follow up to my first question on recommendations for running in the winter. How do you hydrate on those cold nights? I live in the city but I have a feeling that the fountains will be off/frozen and that my hydrobelt will freeze relatively quickly. Any suggestions??
I hydrate in winter just like any other time, although it is harder at this time to judge when I’m really thirsty. Most fountains in NYC’s parks are shut off so you def want to bring fluids with you, and thankfully, your fuel belt will NOT freeze! What with the constant movement and closeness to your body, the water will stay water—and refreshingly cold—so get excited… No excuses not to run!
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Anonymous said: I'm going to be training for my second marathon (first attempt at a spring marathon) this winter. Any tips you could recommend to help me survive the New England weather?
Invest in lots of layers! Target and Old Navy have great options for thermal jackets and tights (think cheap because you’ll want a lot of stuff), and a legit pair of running gloves—sold at places like New Balance or North Face—will do wonders. Also, don’t forget to hydrate on your long runs. In the winter, we tend to feel less sweaty during outdoor workouts, but that doesn’t mean you’re not losing water and electrolytes, so if you don’t already have a fuel belt, now is the time. Lastly, try to enjoy the cold! Running in sub-freezing temps can be a bitch, but it can also feel exhilarating, especially when we spend so much time cooped up inside. Consider each run your opportunity to shake out the cabin fever, soak up vitamin D, and otherwise be a wild child till it’s time to go back in and hibernate. Best of luck with training!
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Last month, I decided with the support of my parents and boyfriend to pick up stakes and move back home to Missouri. As many of you FrED readers know, depression—in varying stages of severity—has long been a battle of mine, and it dawned on me just this summer, after six years on the East Coast, that hope and help will only come with closeness to my mom and dad. I need them and love them and miss them too much to be so far away. I will leave Ralph Lauren next month in good stead and knowing that I always have a future with the company should I wish to try again, and I leave with nothing but love for this wild city and my family here. This decision is an exciting one (I get to buy a car! attend Mizzou football games!) and a scary one (What if I hate it?). But when I think of the possibilities—of seeing my parents long and often, of getting closer to my baby sister who now calls Kansas City home—I can’t help but feel a thrill.
We may never escape our inner torments or our fates; we pack them up with the clothes and dishes and carry them with us wherever we go, and this will not be my last dip in the deep end of melancholia. Better, I realize now, to suffer close to the ones who love me most and best, than suffer far from them, even in the greatest city on earth.
- Thomas Wolfe: Look homeward, angel.
- Dorothy Gale: There's no place like home!
My coworkers are calling Ralph Lauren’s Spring 2015 delivery “the Cary Collection” because every look reminded them of me :)
Needless to say, I am over the moon about the whole shebang…and very, very happy that I never tossed my cargo pants from 2005.
On a more somber note, today we are all thinking of the events that took place thirteen years ago, of their impact on our lives, and of the lives that were lost.
The above picture has long had a hold on me—I can see my own father—every father—in Robert Peraza, who was pausing at his son’s name inscribed on the WTC memorial wall at the tenth anniversary ceremony on September 11, 2011. The anguish he must still feel is unimaginable but universal.
That thirteen years later the impact of that day on our collective conscience is still so strong speaks volumes of the strength of our American spirit.
"I’m not really a big drinker, more of a bar food person actually—such a sucker for jalapeño poppers. The Levee in Williamsburg—they have great food. It’s so gross—things like cheesy fries—and it’s stupid bad for you, but I eat it anyway. I might bring along a flask filled with Fireball. People say that’s a frat boy thing, but how was I supposed to know?"
Taylor LaShae, speaking to Into the Gloss
(I have no idea who this lady is, but after reading the above, she’s my new favorite star.)